Stop being so damn easy!!!

I had a friend who would always say "If you don't stand for something you will fall for anything". So I'm challenging all my female family and friends and I ask you to challenge someone you know. Tell a co-worker or email a special friend who may be having a hard time realizing their self worth. To rise to the occasion and set the bar. Simply take a stand and demand more from your MAN. Begin to assert your self, go back to the check list. Make a list of ten things you look for in a mate and stick with it. Make the first two things deal breakers. What is a deal breaker? The deal breaker is something you can't live with out. They have it or you move on no questions asked. Lets revisit our morals go back to making him work for your time, your trust and eventually your love. Try the 90 day rule. Make him show you what kind of man he is what he truly have to bring to the table before you take him into your Temple.This next thing should go without saying but unfortunately it can't,  make him take you on a date (taking you to his house or you taking him to your house dose not qualify as a date) and then walk you to the door at the end of the night. Make him pull out the chair and open the door for you. I know this sounds old fashion and you are probably rolling your eyes but if he wants you he will do it and it will be refreshing for him to have a lady that acts as such. We as women determine the quality of our men and its time we take some blame. Stop being so damn easy!!! Then and only then we will begin to see respectful men by the boat load. Until we demand more we will continue to settle for less.

Here are a few words I took the time to look up because some times the real meaning of a word can get lost when its mixed in with a bunch of bull.

1. Assert
2. Positive
3. Woman
4. Man
5. Family
6. Respect
7. Love

Set your soul free
Why do we always want whats wrong for us
Why set all these standards and boundaries only to give in 
Why is it that the ones who love us are the first to give up hope
Why pretend love found you when you was searching every corner and den
Why act like things are okay when inside you want to break down and cry
Why not set your soul free and give it the strength to fly

Happy Birthday to ME!

Today's my birthday!!!!!!!!

My Valentine's Day

OK V-Day is here and I know some people are freaking out because they don't have a valentines, well I say for get it. Be your own valentine! No one can love you better then you love yourself. Here's what you do.......

 Valentine's Day To Do List

1. You start by sleeping in, get all the beauty sleep you need
2.  Make yourself a big beautiful fruit salad with nuts( To keep you energized for the day)
3. Get dressed comfortable but cute
4. Get yourself a manicure and pedicure
5. On your way home call  in a to go order to your favorite restaurant 
6. When you get home run yourself  a nice hot bubble bath ( I like milk baths)
7. Eat your meal to a soft light as you read a few chapters of your favorite book and sip on your favorite wine
8. Curl up in your bed or on your coach and watch your favorite move

Roses are red
Violets are blue

You must love yourself  first
Before someone else can truly love you.

PS Happy Valentine's Day Sweetie

When is enough ever enough?

I don't know about you but I am so sick of all these story's about cheating ass me. How hard is it to just keep it in your pants? When is enough ever enough? But I think the thing that bugs me the most is that we as women have such a hard time just letting go. We think "If I still love him then I can make it work" no you CAN NOT. Just because you love someone dose not mean you have to stay.


There are a lot of things I have going on inside
There are a lot of things I just can't hide
There are a lot of things I want to express
There are a lot of things I have to confess

The love we shared was never gone
The love we shared still grows strong
The love we shared had such an appeal
The love we shared seemed so unreal

I never thought love would be like this
I never thought we would have our one last kiss
I never thought I would lose my friend
I never thought I would have to start again

When it's time to move on
When it's time to be strong
When it's time to be sincere
When it's time to wipe away the tears

You're the one that pops in my mind
You're the one I'll remember throughout time
You're the one, my only ture love
You're the one I'll always think of

Good Bye

Super Bowl

Boy how times have changed!!! 

I remember going to the Super Bowl party all dressed up. I would have a few drinks, and get ready for the half time show.This year I'm sitting in my living room with my soon to be three year old son sitting next to me and my two month old hanging from my breast.

Next year I'm making my come back!!!!!

PEOPLE ALWAYS SAY YOU CAN NEVER TRULY KNOW A PERSON. I'VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT THAT AND IT CAME TO ME TODAY. IT'S NOT THAT YOU DON'T KNOW A PERSON IT MAY BE THAT YOU KNOW THEM TOO WELL AND THE THINGS YOU HATE OR DON'T LIKE YOU CHOSE TO IGNORE. 100% NOT HEALTHY.

TO ALL MY LADY’S SOMETIMES HE TRULY IS THE MEANTIME GUY!

TO: MY MEANTIME GUY 

IT WASN'T UNTIL THE OTHER DAY I WAS ABLE TO UNDERSTAND WHY I CAN'T LET YOU GO 

NOT IN A PHYSICAL SINCE BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL

IN THE BEGINNING IT TOOK A LOT OF SELF RESTRAIN TO KEEP ME FROM CALLING YOU 

THE NIGHTS I FELL ASLEEP HOLDING MY PILLOW 

BUT AS WE BEGAN TO TALK I REALIZED THAT YOU MEAN MORE TO ME 

BECAUSE YOU ARE MORE 

YOU ARE MY TURNING POINT 

WHAT THEY CALL A LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE

AFTER YOU I WILL NEVER BE THE SAME PERSON

SEE OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS MY GREEN HOUSE

WHERE I NEEDED TO BE AT THAT PARTICULAR TIME OF MY LIFE SO I COULD GROW
GROW INTO A BETTER PERSON

A BETTER WOMEN 

SO I KNOW YOUR THINKING:WHAT DOSE ALL THIS MEAN 

SIMPLY 

THANK YOU 

THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU,FOR BEING THE TURNING POINT I NEEDED

THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME BECOME A NEW WOMEN, A BETTER WOMEN

THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME TO SEE SOMETIMES NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU WORK 

OR HOW BAD YOU WANT SOMETHING 

SOMETHINGS ARE JUST NOT MEANT TO BE

BE MEANING

NOT YOURS TO HAVE AND TO HOLD FOR AS LONG AS YOU BOTH SHALL LIVE

BUT YOURS TO HAVE AND TO HOLD IN THE MEANTIME 

WHILE YOU GROW TO YOUR FULL CAPACITY AS A WOMEN, AND THAT'S OKAY

FOR THAT I LOVE YOU 

YOU WILL ALWAYS HOLD A SPECIAL PLACE IN MY HART THAT NO ONE CAN FILL 

SO-- 

ONCE AGAIN THANK YOU AND GOODBYE 

FROM: YOUR FOREVER GRATEFUL GIRL