I had a friend who would always say
"If you don't stand for something you will fall for anything". So I'm challenging all my female family and friends and I ask you to challenge someone you
know. Tell a co-worker or email a special friend who may be having a hard
time realizing their self worth. To rise to the occasion and set the bar. Simply take a stand and demand more from your MAN. Begin to assert your self, go back to the check list. Make a list of ten things you look for in a mate and stick with it. Make the first two things deal breakers. What is a deal breaker? The deal breaker is something you can't live with out.
They have it or you move on no questions asked. Lets revisit our morals go back to making him work for your time, your trust and eventually your love. Try the 90 day rule. Make him show you what kind of man he is what he truly have to bring to the table before you take him into your Temple.This next thing should go without saying but unfortunately it can't, make him take you on a date (taking you to his house or you taking him to your house dose not qualify as a date) and then walk you to the door at the end of the night. Make him pull out the chair and open the door for you. I know this sounds old fashion and you are probably rolling your eyes but if he wants you he will do it and it will be refreshing for him to have a lady that acts as such. We as women determine the quality of our men and its time we take some blame.
Stop being so damn easy!!! Then and only then we will begin to see respectful men by the boat load. Until we demand more we will continue to settle for less.
Here are a few words I took the time to look up because some times the real meaning of a word can get lost when its mixed in with a bunch of bull.
- Assert
- Positive
- Woman
- Man
- Family
- Respect
- Love
Set your soul free
Why do we always want whats wrong for us
Why set all these standards and boundaries only to give in
Why is it that the ones who love us are the first to give up hope
Why pretend love found you when you was searching every corner and den
Why act like things are okay when inside you want to break down and cry
Why not set your soul free and give it the strength to fly
This is a very interesting, but true topic. Some women do not know the definition of "a good man"; so therefore they settle for less or (in their eyes) what they are use to. When a women is not use to getting wine and dined, pampered, love, respected etc..It harder for them to know the meaning of those words; and understand what they feel like. Some women just take what they can get; when they can get it. Sad, but true!
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